Let's face it. "Why?" is a terrible question to ask yourself. Here's the reason.
When you ask "Why?" , as in "Why is this happening to me?" "Why doesn't that person answer my calls?" and questions like that, it gives your Inner Critic a chance to raise it's self-serving head (because it's trying to keep everything the same, and you "stuck") and respond like this: "Because you're a hopeless dweeb." "Who would want to hang out with you? You're worthless."
The things you're told by your Inner Critic are NOT TRUE. It's what you heard (usually from someone else, or the TV, or any number of places), and what you've reinforced throughout your life. It happens to us all.
Trust me when I say there isn't a person out there who doesn't have some version of a blue-suit-cats-eye-glasses-grey-haired-overweight-overbearing-loud-voiced Critic whispering (and sometimes shouting) in their ear telling them what a creep they are. Mine is named Sally Jenkins (with apologies to every Sally Jenkins...
Gestalt coaching is a form of individualized (or group) coaching that emphasizes personal responsibility and focuses upon the individual's experience in the present moment, the coach-client relationship, the environmental and social contexts of a person's life, and the self-regulating adjustments people make as a result of their overall situation.